Boost your self esteem

1. The first step in building your self-esteem is learning to focus on your achievements - whether the accomplishment is small or large, focus on what it meant to you at the time that made the accomplishment. Do them in order, it will be easier to accomplish them without feeling disappointed about yourself.

2. Focus on the positive aspects of your life - the things that make your life worthwhile. Rather than accepting and dwelling on negative experiences, find ways in which you can turn the experience into a positive one.

3. Focus on the things that you like about yourself, and the things that your friends and family like about you. Rather than focusing on the things that you do not like about yourself, think of constructive ways in which these things can be changed - and if something cannot be changed, learn to accept it as a part of who you are.

4. Accept yourself for who you are. Learn to accept the things that you cannot change and focus on the positive things about yourself. No

5. Learn to change your inner critic from a negative, criticizing voice into a positive voice that offers constructive criticism rather than finding fault with yourself. Try to see the good side of any situation.

6. Associate with people who are positive and supportive. If you surround yourself with negative people, your feeling will tend to be negative. Positive, supportive friends can help to raise your self-esteem by providing a nurturing environment for you.

7. Don't compare yourself to others. There will always be people that have more than you, but there are also those who have less than you. Focus on what you do have rather than what you don't have, and on what you can do well rather than what you can't do well. Everybody is different and unique in a certain way. Remember, nobody is perfect.

8. Focus on your positive qualities - honesty, creativeness, unselfishness, helpfulness, communication skills, and your ability to care for the welfare of others.

9. Turn your home into a haven in which you can escape the busy, hectic world with these relaxation techniques. Surround yourself with relaxing music and wonderful friends who make you feel comfortable. Create a space where you can spend some time alone reflecting on your goals and accomplishments in a positive and relaxing atmosphere.

10. Learn to forgive yourself when you do not accomplish all that you set out to. Everyone falls short sometimes, but rather than focusing on the negative aspects, learn to readjust your goals so that you have a better chance of meeting them. Almost any negative experience can be turned into a positive experience with the right attitude.

How life works...

Loving yourself and noticing how beautiful you are from the inside and outside, are the first two steps to feel gorgeous. Yesterday, I was reading a magazine that taught girls how to accomplish this two steps, they seemed easy, but at the time of performing them, they were hard. For example, one of the tips was to try to engage in activities that you found mentally, emotionally and spiritually rewarding. Volunteer for a favorite cause, hike in a beautiful natural area, participate in lively conversation, attend worship services or take some time out of your day for meditation. And socialize only with people who support you and make you feel good about who you are. Sometimes we have to do things we don't feel comfortable with, but they are obligations that we need to learn how to take them easily without stressing ourselves. In addition, a "normal life" includes the action of working and socializing with people we can't stand or in other words they don't have they same personality you have, so we tend to repel. Those are moments in which your body stresses because you are working hard to try to have a fluid conversation, even though you don't feel it. I learned that by knowing how to control your mind, by making the right decision, not the one that is more convinient for you are the only ways to get to know yourself, and by inspecting yourself, you get to see your strengths and weaknesses.